Friendships

Friendships play a huge role in a girl's confidence and wellbeing during the tween years. As children grow, friendships naturally become more important, but they can also become more complicated. Learning how to navigate friendships, handle disagreements and build healthy relationships helps girls develop confidence, resilience and kindness that will benefit them throughout life.

Why do friendships become so important during the tween years?

As girls grow older, they begin spending more time with friends and developing their own identity outside of the family. Friendships help children feel accepted, supported and understood while also teaching important social skills such as communication, empathy and teamwork.

Is it normal for friendships to change during the tween years?

Yes. As children grow and their interests develop, friendships naturally change too. Some friendships become stronger, while others drift apart. Although this can be difficult, it's a normal part of growing up and helps children learn more about themselves and the qualities they value in others.

What makes a healthy friendship?

Healthy friendships are built on kindness, trust, respect and support. Good friends celebrate each other's successes, listen without judgement and make each other feel safe and valued. Helping your daughter recognise these qualities can guide her towards positive relationships.

What if my daughter is struggling to make friends?

Every child develops social confidence at their own pace. Encourage your daughter to participate in activities she enjoys, be open to meeting new people and remember that meaningful friendships often take time to develop. Building confidence in herself is just as important as finding friends.

How can I help my daughter deal with friendship problems?

Start by listening carefully without immediately trying to solve the problem. Encourage your daughter to think about possible solutions, discuss respectful ways to communicate and remind her that disagreements happen in all friendships. Learning to work through small challenges helps build resilience.

Why does my daughter care so much about fitting in?

Wanting to belong is a natural part of child development. During the tween years, friendships become a major source of identity and acceptance. Reassure your daughter that it's okay to be different and encourage her to value friendships where she feels accepted for who she truly is.

What should I do if my daughter feels left out?

Feeling left out can be incredibly upsetting for children. Acknowledge your daughter's feelings, remind her that everyone experiences friendship challenges at times and help her focus on building connections with children who treat her with kindness and respect.

How can I teach my daughter to be a good friend?

Being a good friend starts with kindness, honesty and empathy. Encourage your daughter to listen to others, include children who may be feeling left out, celebrate other people's achievements and treat others with respect.

Why do friendship groups change so often?

As girls develop new interests and personalities, friendship groups naturally evolve. While these changes can sometimes feel overwhelming, they are a normal part of growing up and learning where they feel most comfortable and accepted.

How can I help my daughter become more confident in social situations?

Confidence grows through practice. Encourage your daughter to join activities she enjoys, introduce herself to new people and remember that every child feels nervous in unfamiliar situations from time to time. Celebrating small successes helps build confidence over time.

Should I encourage my daughter to solve friendship problems herself?

Where appropriate, giving your daughter the opportunity to solve age-appropriate friendship challenges helps develop confidence and problem-solving skills. Let her know you're always available to offer guidance while encouraging her to think through possible solutions herself.

How can I tell if a friendship is unhealthy?

Friendships should make children feel valued, respected and safe. If your daughter is regularly feeling anxious, excluded, pressured or unhappy because of a friendship, it may be time to have an open conversation about healthy relationships and boundaries.

What if my daughter compares herself to her friends?

Comparison is common during the tween years. Encourage your daughter to focus on her own strengths, interests and achievements rather than measuring herself against others. Remind her that everyone has different talents and develops at their own pace.

How do social media and friendships affect each other?

As children get older, friendships often continue online as well as at school. Talk openly with your daughter about using social media respectfully, thinking before posting and remembering that online interactions should reflect the same kindness and respect as face-to-face friendships.

Why is kindness so important in friendships?

Kindness builds trust, strengthens relationships and creates a positive environment where everyone feels included. Teaching kindness not only helps your daughter build strong friendships but also contributes to her own confidence and emotional wellbeing.

How can I encourage my daughter to include others?

Lead by example and encourage your daughter to look for opportunities to include classmates or teammates who may be feeling left out. Small acts of kindness can make a significant difference to another child's confidence and sense of belonging.

What role do parents play in supporting friendships?

Parents play an important role by providing encouragement, modelling respectful relationships and creating opportunities for children to spend time with friends. Being available to listen without judgement helps children feel comfortable discussing friendship challenges.

Can sport help children build friendships?

Absolutely. Sport provides opportunities to meet new people, work as part of a team and develop communication skills. Whether it's swimming, basketball, netball or dance, shared activities often create lasting friendships while building confidence.

How can I help my daughter recover after a friendship ends?

Friendship changes can be painful, but they also help children develop resilience. Allow your daughter time to process her emotions, remind her that friendships naturally change throughout life and encourage her to stay open to meeting new friends.

How can I help my daughter build strong, lasting friendships?

Encourage kindness, confidence, honesty and respect. Help your daughter value friendships where she feels accepted for who she is and remind her that true friends support one another through both good times and challenges.

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